Is the world full of “Self Entitled Babies”?

In a Twitter post some time back I asked “Are employees seizing the day or seizing the pay?”  One response was telling “It’s all about the pay in this world of self entitled babies. I see so many 70 % out there it’s amazing anything gets done”.

Apparently, some feel employers aren’t doing enough to drive performance while other feel employers aren’t doing enough to meet needs.  Are the two related-who really knows.  My bet is that it isn’t the same for everyone.

What is amazing to me is the amount of mutual resentment that is out there.  Here is what folks don’t seem to get:

1. It is the employee’s responsibility to look after themselves.
2. When negotiating salary, PEOPLE ARE SUPPOSED TO BE SELF-INTERESTED. 
3. Our culture equates pay with value.
4. People equate level of pay with Personal Value.
5. Everyone knows an overpaid idiot.
6. Life is expensive. We need money to survive.
7. Most people have ZERO concept about the true Fair Market Value (FMV) of their services.  They don't see what others are paid. 
8. HR & MANAGEMENT ASKS people what their last salary was to determine how much they are “worth” then get upset when prospective employees decline to provide the information. THUS, no fair turning around and becoming miffed when people want more money because they believe that they are delivering value.
9. Employees believe that they are doing the work required of the job. If they are not, that is an issue of management failing to manage.
10. Who wasn’t a whining, overly entitled cry baby at 20?  Seriously, most employees entering the work force have to be trained to be employees.  They have little or no real life experience. Did you really expect a worldly wise 20 something?

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Be wary of “false alarms” one person who attracts all the attention, in fact demands it.

 Yes, they get attention.

 The flip side is that others, the folks who come to work and do their stuff, often are over-shadowed and feel unappreciated.

 While supervisors feel as though one person or one event is sucking up  too much time and energy.

 For each time there is someone doing a version of Chicken Little’s “THE SKY IS FALLING!” check in with your tried and true workers to see how they interpret the situation.  Listen to the Steady Eddies. Pay them as much attention-if not more.

While the concern of the person who raises the roof over and over again might be legitimate, you cannot allow them to overshadow the others.

 You can let them know that you heard their concern, but it is not an urgent issue at the time.  THEN articulate that “we have a good group of folks here. Folks who are bright, articulate, & who can speak for themselves.”

  If you get push back , REPEAT, “we have smart people her who can speak for themselves.”

 REPEAT “People can speak for themselves & I will respect their choice not to come forward as much as I respect YOUR choice to come forward.  I heard your concern, do you have something else to add?” 

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'13' Reasons Why People Are Jerks At Work

Everyone has a bad day now and then.  There are people, however, who don’t simply have a bad day. They have a bad decade.  Where does this come from?  Sue Pivetta of Professional Pride has identified 13 instances that if not addressed can lead to perpetual negative behavior.

Take a look at the list below. The first element is the cause followed by the behavior.

Do any of these stand out to you?   Do co-workers or management suffer from these pernicious feelings?  The first step to improvement is identifying the problem.  Let the games begin….

1. Lack of control causing people to exert control in inappropriate ways or hold on with a death grip to any areas of control that they believe that they have.
2. Inability to set boundaries resulting is others feeling steam rolled or violated by comments that are personal attacks.
3. Feelings of abandonment causing people withdraw and not share information.
4. Feelings of dependence resulting in people unable to make independent decisions or act without first getting permission-not matter how minor the action.
5. Need to be liked or listened to causing people to avoid conversations, agree with whomever is in the room. OR repeating, repeating, repeating, repeating the same story or complaint over & over & over again.
6. Authority and power Issues causing individuals to take actions on either side of a broad spectrum. On one end, if they love power and authority they will try and make people bow down to their ideas, proposals, ways of doing things because “I am the boss” or “you have to pay your dues” or “this is the way it was for me, it will be the way it was for you.”  Alternatively, there are folks who HATE people who have authority over them. They will be contrary simply to assert their own independence as a way to say “You are not the boss of me” even if you are.
7. Need for excitement and chaos.  Yes, there are drama queens and kings out there. They will create drama to show how valuable they are. They need something to focus on.  They need to create a driving force to stir up the daily routine.
8. Loyalties and protectiveness. Resulting in coalition building and backing individuals or ideas simply to back the person.
9. Low professional or personal self-esteem causing individuals not to contribute, take calculated risks and become the “go along, get along” lump.
10. Disappointment over being unfulfilled resulting in individuals withdrawing emotionally and physically from the work. Increase absenteeism. No participation in meetings. Work pace slows & performance suffers.
11. Personal professional needs not met resulting in frustration and job/life dissatisfaction.  May become shorter tempers, time on the internet searching for new jobs, push back on new initiatives at work or statements that “it doesn’t matter anyway!”
12. Personality type, learned behavior causing individuals to play the role of victim or bully.  Increased complaints & water cooler conversations.
13. Follower personality, lack of personal power resulting in minimal amount of engagement. Follower characteristics are good.  This situation is bad because the follow is completely overshadowed the leader who may be a handful themselves.  The follower will not take any action against or contradict the leader.  The follower is assimilated into a coalition and voiceless.

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