Comments for How to Avoid being Torpedoed at Work at http://www.managingconflict.com , comment 1 to 2 out of 2 comments http://www.managingconflict.com Sat, 19 May 2012 15:22:32 +0100 FeedCreator 1.7.3 http://www.managingconflict.com/blog/how-to-avoid-being-torpedoed-at-work.html#comment-3 Thank you for sharing so candidly! Oh how I relate to your comment! It helps so much when someone of your caliber shares openly. My similar experience happened just after I introduced myself (the coordinator didn’t make it in time and asked that I introduce myself). The person handed me a note just as I began with a small group exercise. It said something about how I had “lost him right from the start because of the way I introduced myself”. I remember staring dumbfounded at the note. My body took over and somehow my fingers folded the note, handed it back and from my mouth came the words, “interesting feedback”. Just imagine, the poor fellow stayed the whole workshop. Like you, I examined if the feedback had merit. I typically stay factual in my introduction and can’t imagine at what he took offense. I am fascinated that all these years later, though I think I “let it go”, the memory of the sting from those type of comments still piques. - Carol Schillios Wed, 19 Dec 2007 15:13:50 +0100 http://www.managingconflict.com/blog/how-to-avoid-being-torpedoed-at-work.html#comment-1 Well done. How many times do we forget to ask “is this really about me” before we respond. It is part of not getting triggered by other people’s stuff. - Jeanette Thu, 08 Nov 2007 00:01:36 +0100